Tuesday, 8 June 2010

A Wonderful Feeling Called..Love!

“Love”, a word that encompasses a whole gamut of feelings! An emotion that tends to affect us holistically! For some it means adoration! For others it becomes synonymous with the word worship and what not!

Some consider it to be full of mystery while there are others who consider it to be complex. The truth is that it is indefinable and immeasurable. It is a strong positive emotion. Like all the other emotions it too has a biological basis. When this emotion is felt, the brain starts releasing certain chemicals like pheromones, dopamine, neropinephrine, serotonin etc. All play different roles. Neropinephrine acts as a painkiller. The effect of some are just like amphetamines(chemicals present in narcotics) i.e. just like the effect that cocaine has on us! Dopamine, a neurotransmitter, triggers the pleasure that love gives us. Oxytocin, a hormone, helps in giving emotional signals and works towards cementing relationships making us committed. Edorphins soothe us, embellish us with feeling of calmness and tranquillity, Anxieties are removed and love then becomes ecstatic!

When we are under the influence of this intense emotion, we experience strong feelings of attachment towards the person whom we are in love with. There can be affection, sexual attraction and devotion. One can completely surrender and there can be complete acceptance. There are no reasons behind it; no logic; no inferences; no conclusions. True love then becomes illogical. There are no causes behind it.

It has the potential to nurture; to foster life.

Love can be categorized with all its technicalities. Love can passionate as well as compassionate. Compassion in love brings mutual respect and trust where as passion leads to physical attraction.

Then there can be tough love and unrequited love. Tough love pertains to a kind of love where we deal harshly with the person with an intension to help them. Like parents getting tough with their children.

When there is no reciprocation of this feeling then a feeling of despair can set in. This is what is known as unrequited love. Rejection in love can completely destroy a person emotionally,mentally,spiritually and sometimes even physically.

On the other hand unconditional love is a kind of love that is on the spiritual level. It encourages devoting ourselves in the service of humanity leading to further spiritual growth. It becomes an instrument to overcome individual egos. We are able to shed prejudices and resentments.

On the contrary self love or narcissistic love compels us to be egocentric. Though a bit of self love is a prerequisite to develop self esteem in us but excess of it can make us rude, selfish and critical of others. It can destroy our personality.

Love is not only expressing our feelings verbally. It can be expressed in tangible ways…the ways that are identifiable and recognizable by the person whom we love. It can be in the form caring…caring without manipulation! Our behaviours, actions and attitudes should convey our feelings that can easily be recognized by both the parties.

Love in house implies self worth; it means intimacy with the partner, and intimacy with the children making the whole environment healthy. Love should provide physical, mental and social security but a word of caution goes here….too much love can cause neurotic development!!

So now if you find this emotion prevailing upon you, just try to express it…don’t be hesitant…don’t be scared…reap the benefits of the positive reinforcement of this great and wonderful emotion!


  1. Good piece! The beginning is best in it where you are explaining the connection between emotions and chemistry. If a person is injected with all the chemicals you have listed -I wonder if they will act as the magical "love potion"!

  2. Now I understand how lyricist Sameer wrote :
    Nasha ye pyaar ka nasha hai....

    Love is intoxicating... Love is self destructive... Love is salvation... Love is this ... Love is that... Love is blah blah blah....

    I think Love is nothing but Love :

    Pyaar ko pyaar hi rahne do koi naam na do....

    By the way .... An eye opener.... Your hard work is reflected Abha ji.... But last not the least...

    Pothi padh padh jag mua pandit bhaya na koy,
    Dhai aakhar prem ka padhe so pandit hoy...


  3. So now if you find this emotion prevailing upon you, just try to express it…don’t be hesitant…don’t be scared…reap the benefits of the positive reinforcement of this great and wonderful emotion!

    Ok ji, will keep it in mind.

    "Prem" vishay ka sundar Vyagyanik evm Manovyagyanik paksh rakha aapne. Padhkar
    jankari me bridhi hui. Shukriya ise share karne ke liye.

  4. Awesome Abha ji, I was in impression that love is undefinable but really you have define it in such a good ways specially relating love n feelings with chemistry...gr8 ..LOVEOLOGY....

  5. Dear Abha Ji,
    It is really nice to read about love, emotions and intoxication,Your Words abt Love are really meaningful, As Mother Tresa said," IF YOU CAN NOT LOVE A PERSON WHOM YOU SEE,THAN HOW CAN YOU LOVE GOD , WHOM YOU HAVE NEVER SEEN, so keep it up,
    - Deepak Kawatra

  6. abha ji

    i never read this type of chemistry............. very rare and very good article.